INTRODUCTION

Chapter 1: What Happened?

• The Divorce Culture
• The Extra-Strength Marriage
• Why Me?
• The Good Divorce

Chapter 2: Danger Signs Ahead

• Private Eyes & Cyber Snooping
• Financial Prophylactics

Chapter 3: 1-800-Lawyer

• Fasten Your Seat Belts
• Decision Time

Chapter 4: Keeping It Together

• Last Ditch Efforts
• Counseling
• Forgive and Forget?

Chapter 5: Calling it Quits

• How to Tell the Spouse
• If You're the Last to Know
• Dealing with Kids, Parents, Friends, and Neighbors

Chapter 6: Hitting the Road?

• To Leave or not to leave
• Pet Sounds?
• Paying the Way
• Minding Your Manners

Chapter 7: Why Can't We Be Friends?

• Giving Peace a Chance: ADR (Alternative Dispute Resolution)
• To Mediate, Arbitrate, or Collaborate, That is the Question
• Making War, not Peace-the Decision to Litigate

Chapter 8: Legally Separating

• Marital Earthquakes---a/k/a "Grounds and Faults"
• Staying "Married" Apart

Chapter 9: Ex Marks the Spot

• Cutting the Ties That Bind
• Going Solo (or with a lawyer)
• Helping Yourself

Chapter 10: Annulment

• What Marriage?
• The Kerry/Kennedy Syndrome
• Get the Get

Chapter 11: Can I Sue the @#$%*&^!?

• The Scorned Spouse's Revenge
• The Tort Against the Taker

Chapter 12: Divorce, American-Style

• Yours, Mine, and Ours:
• Ownership is not 9/10s of the law
• What's at Stake

Chapter 13: The Magical Marital Property Tour

• East vs. West-Why Location matters
• Kitchen Sinks and Other Stuff

Chapter 14: Strange Assets

• Employment and Military Benefits
• Goodwill: for Businesses, Professionals, and Celebrities

Chapter 15: Finders Keepers

• Where's it At?
• It's the Internet, Silly
• Private Eyes: Part Two

Chapter 16: "Loan" is just a 4-Letter Word

• Indian Giving
• Other Special Presents

Chapter 17: It Comes Down to Dollars

• The Price is Right
• The Wonderful World of Accountants
• Don't Try This At Home

Chapter 18: Wasted?

• Where Did the All the Money Go, Long Time Passing?
• Bankruptcy-Fix or Fiasco?

Chapter 19: Last Call: Divvying the Things

• Possessions: One for You, Two for Me
• Home Sweet Home: Who keeps the Digs?

Chapter 20: The Tax Man Cometh…Long after Divorce

• Guilty or Innocent?
• IRS to the Rescue-No Kidding!

Chapter 21: The Changing Tides

• Best Supporting Roles
• What's My Worth in the Market?
• What's up Doc?
• Time is Money

Chapter 22: Setting the Sum

• The Gold Standard (of Living)
• Show Me ALL the Money!

Chapter 23: Till Death Does He Pay?

• Not All Good Things Must End
• Your Social Security Blanket

Chapter 24: Kids Still Count, Maybe

• My Son the Doctor (my Daughter the Lawyer),
• How Long Do You Foot Their Bills

Chapter 25: To Have and to Parent

• Even Older Offspring Get the Blues
• The Sins of the Father and Mother
• All You Need is (Unconditional) Love

Chapter 26: Navigating the Ritual Minefields of Life

• Your Kid's White Wedding
• Births, Baptisms, Bar Mitzvah's and Burials-What do you do?
• Maintaining Ex Relations -Could You, Should you?

Chapter 27: The ART (Artificial Reproductive Technology) of Divorce

• Sex, Lies, and Surrogacy
• Left Over Eggs and Sperm

Chapter 28: Supporting Your Kids' Kids?

• Why, Tell me Why Am I?
• Grandparents In the Driver's Seat

Chapter 29: It's All in the Details

• The Name Game
• Get Your Garnishment On?
• Your Move
• The Ex's Move

Chapter 30: The Final Acts

• Outliving the Ex
• The Almighty QDRO
• The QMESO, huh?

Chapter 31: Taking Your Monetary Temperature

• Credit Reporting
• Credit Repairing
• Planning Your Financial Future
• Taxing Changes
• A (New) Will to Live
• Capital Improvements

Chapter 32: Healing Waters

• Grief, Uncertainty, and Growth
• I Will Survive
• Set Priorities
• Have Patience and a Positive Mantra
• The Doors of Perception are Yours
• Let's Get Meta/Physical
• Take Stock of Yourself

Chapter 33: The Dating Game

• Searching, Seeking, Hoping
• Careful of that New Flame after the Fire
• Should That Old Acquaintance Be Forgot?

Chapter 34: Oops, I Did It Again…

• Remarrying & Having That Talk with your Adult Kids
• Protecting a Few Of Your Favorite Things
• Checklists for Cohabiting Couples

Chapter 35: Celebrate Transcendence

• The Only Constant Is Change-Be Flexible
• "Be Here Now"
• The Best Is Yet to Come-Always

Index